Here’s a quick but key one-minute video tip. We chuckled when we saw the seeming “antennae” I have…but the content & practice – creating a weekly time for Vision – has been key for us…Enjoy, and let me know if you have a similar practice or experience in the comments below!
Category: Law of Attraction
What Are You Comparing To?
Been pondering something we do everyday, almost without
thinking, that powerfully affects how we feel about ourselves
and what we’re doing.
The neat thing is that as we become aware of this, we can
consciously use this tendency in a way that purposefully
benefits us.
Whether it’s with our health, our weight, our “productiveness”
and “success”, our parenting, our relationships, or something
else…
…I’ve found that how we feel in a given moment is often
directly impacted by what we choose to “compare to.”
Even just for ourselves—-are we comparing to what’s gone before,
and noting the progress we’ve made…or are we comparing to
what hasn’t happened yet, and feeling frustrated or overwhelmed,
or even a “failure”?
It’s interesting how our brains work.
Dan Ariely, a researcher formerly from my alma mater MIT, a
great TED speaker, and author of Predictably Irrational, has
pointed out that human beings tend to assign value only in
reference to something else. I once heard him give the example
of Olympic medalists, asking, “Who do you think is generally
happier with their medal – silver medalists, or bronze medalists?”
The natural thought would be that silver is better than bronze,
but his research showed that the bronze medalists were generally
happier, and his reasoning was that the silver medalists looked
at the gold and felt badly that they came so close and didn’t
“make it”, whereas the bronze medalists looked at all the others
who didn’t get a medal, and were glad they got a medal at all…
So back to us and our daily lives – now that you know your brain
is constantly looking for references to “compare to” and decide
how to feel, you can choose to compare in ways that feel good…
that inspire you to move forward…
rather than ways that overwhelm you or shut you down.
How?
Begin by finding something to appreciate…something you’ve done
well, something that’s gone well…maybe right now it’s just your
own awareness or the potential for things to be different now
that you’re thinking differently.
Next, focus on progress…compare in ways that you feel good about
the progress you’re making…if there’s no outward “progress” yet,
begin by noting that your direction is different.
Perhaps the progress is simply that you’ve held a certain focus or
direction longer than before.
In fact, what direction you’re heading is so much more important
than where you are right now. (You can read more about that here.)
In the meantime, throughout the day, ask yourself, “What am I
comparing to?” and consciously choose comparisons that inspire you
to move forward, rather than those that make you feel small or
inadequate.
Deal?
How about leaving a comment about your own comparisons and
experiences below.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Dr. Ben
P.S. Been enjoying this music from Hayley Westenra as I write this,
and thought I’d post it directly for you here. Enjoy!
The “missing link” to the “Think & Grow Rich” Formula
Just came across Robert Anthony’s new “Secret of Deliberate
Creation” course – a more advanced and “updated” version of
his excellent “Know How To Be Rich Course” which I’ve listened
to multiple times, and which greatly aided me in my transition
into free enterprise…and the principles are applicable to
any deliberate change you want to create in your life–whether
it’s your health, finances, or some other aspect…even though
the examples given largely have to do with getting over lack
and into an experience of abundance with money.
The free report is excellent and presents a core question &
thinking that I haven’t seen presented this clearly or
succinctly before, and which directly addresses what many
leave out when applying the “Law of Attraction”…
…and the first email you’ll receive on certainty has already shifted
my thinking another level as I apply it to my own business and
cash flow.
If you’re interested in the full program, I’ve secured a
special discounted link for you…though even if not, the free
report is definitely worth a look this weekend and will only
take a few minutes:
Robert Anthony’s Secret Of Deliberate Creation & free report
Enjoy, and be sure to leave a comment on your own shifts in
thinking and results below!
Dr. Ben
Just posted this quick one-minute video tip (“filmed” last weekend on an outing with Rachelle and our youngest) on moving forward…Enjoy!
The Applause Of Heaven
This message was re-brought to my attention by a couple
of subscribers who received this by email this week, &
re-experiencing how powerful this is myself, I decided to
re-post it here…Enjoy!
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Let’s do a quick experiment.
In a moment, I’m going to send you to watch a quick 3 minute video.
As you watch, though, and you see everyone clapping and cheering,
I want you to imagine for a moment that they’re all cheering for you.
A few years ago I read excerpts from a book by Max Lucado with
a wonderful title:
The Applause of Heaven
Today as I watched the video of Paul Potts singing below, I imagined the
feeling of people clapping and cheering for me, and I realized
how deeply the desire to be loved, accepted, and approved runs
in all of us.
For a moment I want you to experience the feeling of being
cheered, of being loved.
Whatever your circumstances, whatever your failures, whatever
you feel you’re lacking or wish were different, take a moment
now, watch the video, and enjoy the feeling of being cheered,
loved, and celebrated just for being you.
Then leave a comment about what you experience below.
To a blessed and wonderful week!
Dr. Ben
Helps you manifest with ease…
Today is the day you can get your Mind Movies
Creation Kit right here at 10 a.m. Pacific:
This is the one “tool” that’s
had the single biggest impact on me since I started using it
last fall, and there’s a number of bonuses as well as a f.ree
upgrade to version 2.0 for the first people that get the kit
today.
Also, it looks like they’re re-releasing it in digital format,
which is a much better price than I paid for it last fall! 🙂
Enjoy!
Dr. Ben
Feeling Good–Now or Later?
I have lived much of my life rather compulsively—feeling that
if I just got such and such done, then I could relax and feel
good.
How about you? Are you waiting until your house is clean,
your taxes are done, your weight is just right, or you’ve
finally made it financially—are you waiting until then to
feel good?
Most of us tend to do this by default—it’s how we’ve been
conditioned.
But what I’ve discovered is that choosing to feel good now
not only is more enjoyable, but also opens the door for all
these other things, at least the ones that are truly important,
to get done in their own good time as well.
How can you feel good before everything’s the way you want it?
Ah…that’s an art and a discipline we all are learning.
First of all, recognize that it’s a choice—what you choose to
say to yourself, how you choose to view a situation, what
attitude you choose to have, and what influences you surround
yourself with. A great first step is simply choosing to be
grateful—give thanks for everything good in your life right
now, and even step out and give thanks for the good that’s
coming as if it’s already yours.
To a blessed and wonderful week!
Dr. Ben
An emotional key to manifesting any change you desire.
In working with my business team, I’ve noticed a pattern that
tends to get “overlooked” in practice, but is extremely key
to the success or failure of “manifesting” a desired change
in any aspect of your life.
Whether it’s a result in your business, a change in your health,
or some other area of your life where you’re wanting to create
something that’s not yet in your physical experience…
I’ve noticed a consistent pattern that’s key to actually seeing
fulfillment of what you’re wanting to manifest—-and there’s lot’s
of historical precedent for this pattern as well. 🙂
The key seems to be that there’s a “necessary” amount of time,
which may vary for the person or situation, that’s required to
keep our attention on the change or result we’re wanting to see
(rather than the lack of it), and it’s this attention, and the
emotional consistency that follows from it, that’s the key
difference between someone who “tries” for awhile and then
gives up, vs. the person who actually sees and experiences the
fulfillment of their “dream”.
Here’s two examples that will better clarify what I mean—-one from
an “ancient” text, and the other a simple analogy.
The “ancient” text is the biblical story of the Children of Israel
wandering in the desert for 40 years when they could have entered
the promised land almost right away.
What led to the delay?
Well, one key factor seems to be the recurrent tendency to “give up”
emotionally on the promise they’d been given…and to “murmur and complain”.
Keep that in mind as we consider the following analogy.
Imagine that the result you’re wanting to manifest—-whether it’s
in your health, your finances or business, or some other area of
your life—-is like a crop, say of corn.
And let’s say your crop has a set time—-say 90 days—-to grow fully
and bear fruit.
Well, what if every 45 days, or every 85 days, you “throw in the towel” emotionally,
and walk away from your “crop” because nothing seems to be “happening” yet–at
least not what you want?
Can you see how you could painfully prolong receiving the very fruit
you’ve been sowing toward, much like the Children of Israel delayed
their entrance into the promised land?
So how about making a deal with yourself.
How about taking a moment to reflect on something that you’re really
looking forward to experiencing—-maybe it’s more energy, a better physique
for the summer, growth in your business, or an increasing amount of surplus
at the end of each month—-and taking off the internal “time limit” when you
tend to judge whether something’s “working” or not…and instead, hold to
the promise…the “dream” that draws you…and keep your attention and
your emotions steadily in line with that dream regardless of how things
“look” at the moment…
You may soon look around and find the very thing you’re wanting to experience
is “suddenly” here.
Dr. Ben
P.S. I’d love to hear your own stories of holding fast to a vision or dream
despite how things looked at the moment, and you can share them in the
comments below.
Two ways to learn the Science of Getting Rich
Here’s a quick heads up on two ways to get this powerful
resource…and one of them is free
Many of you know of “The Secret” DVD that became popular
in the last couple of years and showed many how powerfully
our own thoughts and feelings affect our life experience.
Well, last night Bob Proctor, one of the speakers on “The
Secret”, released a digital download version of his in depth
Science of Getting Rich course.
This is a very comprehensive and powerful course, and the
digital version makes it accessible to virtually everyone.
You can access it directly here:
Bob Proctor’s Science Of Getting Rich Course
If for some reason you’re not ready to invest in the full
course, which “unpackages” years of experience and application
of Wallace Wattles’ original work, you can still at least
get Mr. Wattles’ book as a free download through Rebecca
Fine’s site.
Give yourself one of these gifts…and consider sharing with
a friend as well.
Enjoy!
Dr. Ben
For your weekend listening…
Just learned about this interview between Bob Proctor & John
Assaraf (2 of the spkrs on The Secret DVD), where John talks
about the personal strategies behind his success, and the key
role Bob played.
I’ve had the privilege of meeting John Assaraf a few years
ago, and am looking forward to listening to this interview
myself this weekend!
You can access it here.
Enjoy!
Dr. Ben