Just finished a coaching session with a client, and one of the topics that came up was, what do you do when an old symptom or pattern “pops” back up?
Ever feel like you’re doing all the “work” — changing your eating, doing affirmations, learning to focus your attention on things that feel good — and then something “happens” and you react just like before — maybe it’s losing your temper, getting “tight” in your lungs, or “binging” on food or an activity in some way just when you thought you were doing well?
I know when that “happens” to me, I’m tempted to unravel everything like a ball of yarn and feel lousy.
But here’s a distinction I shared with my client today:
Imagine you’re in a forest traveling down a path, and suddenly you see a sign that shows you’re heading in a direction you no longer want to head, and you realize the path you really want is “over there.”
This is a critical moment of awareness, and of a change in direction (for your cells, your health, or your life, business, or relationships).
But even though you now know there’s a different path you want to get on, and you’ve changed your direction, we still live in “time and space” in our physical experience.
So as you travel over to the path you’re now choosing, you may still be passing through some parts of the forest that you don’t like much.
And when you look at your immediate surroundings, or your current health or condition, it might seem like not much has changed, because indeed, the leaves in this part of the forest still look similar since you haven’t moved very far from where you were…
…yet…
But something very significant HAS changed — your whole direction.
And as time goes on, each day you continue in a different direction — practicing new patterns — pretty soon you’ll find yourself on a very different path, and in a very different place, than where you were before.
So here’s the key.
When you take your eyes off where you’re heading and start to look at your immediate surroundings — your current condition in your body, your finances, or your relationships — you may find that things don’t look that different, and be tempted to get discouraged.
This is another critical moment.
Because something very significant has changed — your direction — and if you continue in this new direction, eventually what you see around you — in your body, your money, and your relationships — will change, too.
But…
If you allow yourself to get discouraged, and believe the “evidence of your eyes”…the “facts” that currently surround you…and you forget that your direction is more important than what’s around you right now…and you stop heading in the new direction you’ve started…then you could get “lost” in this part of the forest, where you’ve already decided you don’t want to be.
So…
Remember this:
*** the direction you’re heading in is more important than where you are right now ***
and don’t let where you are right now — your current condition — stop you from continuing to create new patterns and heading in the new direction you’ve chosen.
To your prosperous well-being!
Dr. Ben
has many wonderful affirmations and a unique guide linking physical symptoms with common thought patterns, and then new patterns you can anchor to change your experience. She likens our subconscious mind to a garden and each thought we think to a seed. What grows or “manifests” in our garden, and ultimately our experience, is determined by the seeds we sow.