Are you seeking to create another level of excellence, achievement, business growth, or other “results” in the coming year?
Here’s an intriguing exercise I discovered in the Zanders’ book The Art of Possibility that I applied to the business arena — and the experience was very profound and personal. It’s a whole new way to look at goal-setting for the coming year, and can complement the more “traditional” methods, bringing your whole being, and who you want to become, into play.
Those I’ve shared this “future letter” exercise with have found it inspired them to write their own letter. So now I’m sharing this intriguing exercise with you.
Enjoy creating your own future, and who you’re choosing to become this year, and feel free to share your own experiences, results, or a link to your own video in the comments below.
I look forward to hearing from you!
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Today we move deeper — from the conscious to the subconscious mind — beginning with a key practice that impacts how we see, and what we ultimately attract and experience, in our business and our lives.
I look forward to hearing your own comments, questions, and experiences below.
So as we’re beginning a new year and resetting our goals and
commitments for the year, here’s a thought from Dr. William
Tiller that can greatly increase our leverage and effectiveness
in turning our actions into desired results:
The unseen is always the parent of the seen.
What does this mean?
How many times have you felt the weight of having to do all
the work to create your goals — and felt the big “gap”
between where you are now, and where you want to be?
What if you could leverage a dynamic power source — kind of
like riding a wave — so that your action still mattered, but
now your action was simply cooperating with something greater
that was already set in motion on your behalf?
This is the power of recognizing the connection between our
mental picture, our internal state, and our actions.
One of my key mentors over the years, Jerry Clark, has shared
that our goals and timeframes are for our conscious mind, but
our subconscious mind exists outside of time. The clearer the
picture we impress upon our subconscious mind, the more people,
ideas, resources, even “vehicles” show up in our lives that
can support us in realizing that picture.
Of course, this means we’re also acting and taking steps to
move forward each day, but now rather than our action doing
all the “heavy lifting” from scratch to “make something happen”,
now our action is lighter, easier, and even more fun — because
it’s cooperating with and even “reaping” what’s already been
set in motion in the “unseen.”
Too far out?
How about experimenting with this beginning today — rather than
rushing into action, take some moments to listen, imagine, and
create in the unseen — perhaps with music, out in nature,
with your journal, or simply in quiet contemplation when you
awake, as you fall asleep, or during a break during the day.
This is how my wife Rachelle and I have created the life
we’re living and enjoying today, and we’re still learning
and growing in the process.
Next pay attention to what shows up as you take the steps you can take to move forward today.
Enjoy, and feel free to share your own experiences in the
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and why you’re seeking change at this time.
While driving home from a networking event the other night and reflecting on my experiences of the evening, I thought about the 5 key tips below. I quickly jotted them down in my notebook before going to sleep, then filled them in over the next couple days as a reminder to myself…and to those of you on the path of life with me — here you go:
1) Be Yourself — you fill a unique space in the universe. No one else can be you. Your story and your journey add another unique hue to the rainbow of stories being created, and will have a unique impact on others’ lives. Owning your own value and becoming comfortable with yourself is a great starting point for connecting with others, and in itself is a gift to those around you.
2) Develop Yourself — continually invest in and develop yourself. Always be learning, practicing, & developing new insights & skills as you master your craft & the arena you’ve chosen to play in. This practice will build your self-confidence, effectiveness, and the tangible value you can contribute to others.
3) Connect & Contribute Value — become a person of value — someone who’s interested in others and sincerely seeking to add value to their lives, even if simply by noticing & affirming them.
Asking this simple question, “What can I contribute to this person’s life (or business) today?” is powerful. The answer may simply be a listening ear, a warm acknowledgement – a sense, as I heard Dave Blanchard mention recently, that “you matter” — or it could be something tangible such as a referral, a book or resource, or a practical tip or idea.
4) Invite with Abandon — this one is key to network marketers, but also applies to anyone who’s looking to invite partners or followers to an event, experience, or cause. There is a certain freedom to opening a door of possibility for people and then letting them decide whether they want to walk through.
5) Be unattached & joyful — this one complements #4 — being “unattached” to how a person will respond enables you to be joyful & continue moving forward regardless of potential disappointments or unexpected negativity, and a joyful attitude is always uplifting and attractive. In addition, people appreciate having their own freedom and autonomy honored, and that can actually draw them closer to you rather than pushing them away.
Finally, here’s a “Bonus” tip:
This tip alone will serve you both in life and business and especially in relating to people. Being appreciative is something you can practice just like a golf swing. Begin with your attitude and the words you say to yourself, and then extend this practice to the words and attitude you share with others. Being appreciative will put you in a state that’s attractive and a joy to be around…and no matter what, you’ll feel better…which is what all of us are seeking daily, anyway — to feel good about ourselves and others.
So there you have it — five keys and a bonus one for networking and all of life.
My wife shared this wonderful affirmation from a card on her
desk with me this morning, “Success Is About the Joy I Feel”.
Reminded me of some reflections the past few days as we’ve
just moved into a wonderful new home –- some of our friends
and business partners have been calling it our “dream home”,
and it is indeed the next phase of manifesting a new chapter —
and space, both literally and figuratively –- in our lives.
But what I’ve noticed after moving into our new home, and with
this affirmation in particular giving me the words to express it
–- is that we carry our joy with us…and within us…
If we depend on a new home or some other “outer” thing or
circumstance to bring us joy, we may be setting ourselves up
for disappointment –- because when the newness wears off, we
may find ourselves even worse off than before, because what
we’ve been working toward doesn’t bring the lasting joy we
thought it would…
Conversely, if we realize we carry our joy within us –- and we
practice finding appreciation, joy, and wonder wherever we are –-
then we can move into new spaces and new situations and
fully enjoy them…while not depending on them for our joy.
So here’s to finding joy in your journey, and to creating more and
more joy around you because you realize you carry your joy within you.
And here’s to wonderful new “spaces” and new experiences for you
in the days ahead!
Here are three quick tips for creating a magnificent year:
1. Pull forward the good from the past year
Whatever your disappointments may be from the year before – shake them off and pull forward what you’ve learned and what you appreciate –- highlights from your year.
Drawing a blank?
How about asking yourself, if you did know, what would they be?
In fact, take a moment and write 2 or 3 of the “learnings” or “highlights” down right now as they come to you.
2. Sow daily toward what you want.
Here’s a key question for you:
Are you sowing daily toward what’s important to you, even if it’s only a few minutes a day?
Maybe it’s spending more time with your husband or wife…or your kids…or learning something new.
Rather than getting stuck in “all-or-nothing” land, start asking yourself what steps you could take a few minutes a day to sow in this area that’s important to you.
For me and my family a few years back, I made a decision to start sowing a few minutes a day toward growing a network and a business that was totally new to me, and at a time when I had no “extra” time…so that I wouldn’t be in the same or worse situation (working more and more hours away from the family) a year later…5 years later…10 years later…and that decision, and consistent sowing over time, has totally transformed our lives and allowed me to be home with my family while growing an international business that’s now touching lives in multiple countries around the world.
How about for you?
What’s an area that you want to see changed in the months ahead?
What plan and daily steps can you put in place to start moving in that direction?
3. Live from possibility rather than from pressure.
As you look forward – rather than feeling pressure – whether it’s pressure because of your finances, your health, or some other area of your life – rather than focusing on what’s still “not there” or how far you have to go – start looking at what’s possible.
What’s possible today?
What’s the next step I could take (in this area) today?
My wife has a wonderful phrase “we’ll be met”…referring to the mystery, wonder, and power of being met by something beyond what we can fully see and control ourselves.
As long as we take the steps we can take, and keep our heart open, it’s amazing what can come into our experience.
Be open to be amazed.
And keep taking the steps you can take right now toward what you want, trusting that “you’ll be met” and eventually enjoy the fruit – of something that grows beyond just what you can see from your vantage point right now.
Live…and sow…from possibility rather than pressure.
It’s both more enjoyable and more fun!
Here’s to a powerful and transformational year for us all!
P.S. To further assist you with step #1 and anchor a state of appreciation and gratitude as we enter a the rest of the year, here’s a wonderful video that was just shared with me by a friend. Enjoy!